Male aggression and the point of

This question has been on my mind for a week and only increased in thought by he-who-shall-not-be-named's completely insane behaviour tonight.

Last week a neighbour of mine comes knocking on my door in tears because her husband tried to kill her by putting her hands around her neck with attempt to harm.I asked her what she said to him when he did it but she said she said that she told him nothing. Apparently he has done it three times.

Tut bloody tut.

I can't be doing with both her and his behaviour.

I definitely cannot be doing with any man riddled with aggression so bad that it makes me want to retaliate with the same behaviour. I'm not saying that females can't be aggressive, because they can. However, I think a girl can deal with it a lot better when it is, indeed, a girl being psycho mental patient bird.